This page is a stub, collecting thoughts and resources on asking for help!
The Ask for Help Challenge
- List 10+ things U would like to ask for help with. Be specific, concrete! Make some very small and some very large!
- List 10+ people or communities U could ask for help.
- Within the next few days, ask one person for help in a specific way. Start small if that’s easier!
- Within the next month, ask 10+ people for help in specific ways.
- Optionally, journal about each time U ask for help—who U asked, for what, how they responded, what U felt, what U learned.
- Say thank U when someone says yes, and when they say no! Be grateful for help given, and respect boundaries when people say no! Celebrate how your life changes because U ask for help more!
My Friends on Asking for Help
“Ask for help from new people in new ways every day. It will always pay off.”
— Andrew Rose
In a community, it’s the one(s) who ask for help who are the leaders.
— Andrew Rose
My Tweets About Asking For Help
it’s hard for so many people to ask for help, or to give it—and it’s vital that we unwind this
what helps you to be willing to ask for help, to be brave and have the courage to do so, to feel psychologically safe, to be comfortable being rejected?
for myself, i’m much less scared to make requests, ask for help if i first pause to check if the request makes sense in my understanding and felt sense of the context of the relationship, even if it’s large or unusual or unexpected. then if i receive a no, it’s easy to not take it personally, it’s not about me or my request but about them and their needs and where they’re at
if you ask a single person if they can help you with something specific and vitally important to you, there’s likely 5-10% odds that they’ll be able to do so. if you ask a network of people that know you, trust you, love you, there’s much, much higher odds it will be made so
wow, i’m really good at asking for help when I don’t strictly need it. the more i actually need it, the more vulnerable it is to ask, the less likely i am to do so
“i need help. i don’t know what help i need or how to ask, but i need help.”
i sometimes have the feeling that i would like to ask someone specific for help, that there is timely resonance and beneficial possibility available in the shared field, but i don’t know what to ask for
U can ask someone what kinds of help they would be excited to give U!
tfw you realize you need more help than you know who or what to ask for, or even how to accept and welcome in
tfw U need some kind of help but aren’t sure what to ask for, or who to ask
ask for help!
i’m entering my “ask for help left and right” era
you can just ask for help??? what!?!??!
“what would i do if i truly loved myself?” ask for help