Feel Your Feelings

for my guys or gals who can’t cry so good

When I was a child, I cried often. I loved to cry. And then suddenly, it stopped. I couldn’t cry any more. I wanted to! But I simply couldn’t.

I don’t know exactly how long it was, but there was about fifteen years of my life where I cried very, very infrequently. Like, two or three times during that period. It was rare and mysterious. I couldn’t even cry when my grandfather died, who I loved very much.

That changed when I met Dr. Doug Tataryn. He did a Bio-Emotive session for me that released me from a very intense anxiety spell. I became fascinated with his work and learned as much as I could about Bio-Emotive for the next few years. That culminated in writing my blog post on Bio-Emotive, which shares much of what I’ve learned with the world, freely.

There’s so much I’ve learned about the heart over the years. How to feel my feelings. How to name them and express them. How to resolve them through crying, or laughter, or even screaming. How to live and love from the heart.

I want to share these skills with more people. As many people as can possibly benefit from them. That said, there’s only so much U can learn from words or a blog post or even a YouTube video. Our nervous systems mirror and entrain with others, through live interaction and feedback.

If matters of the heart are something U struggle with, then I’d love to help U.

I want U to be able to feel your feelings, too. I want U to feel like U are fluent with your emotions and feelings, rather than subject to them. That they are an asset and a compass, rather than a burden or a mystery.

Who?

U might be well suited for this program if U:

  • go blank answering the question “How are U feeling?” during an emotional check-in
  • haven’t cried in years, even if U’ve wanted to
  • can’t discern or name your emotions or feelings—it’s all “fine” or “stressed”
  • feel resistant to the idea of doing loving-kindness practice
  • know U have emotions buried in there somewhere, but can’t find them, or they only come out at weird times

U might be less well suited to this program if U have already done lots and lots of inner work, are connected to your emotions, can name their feelings, can cry readily and easily.

This isn’t therapy—this is skills training. It’s possible a dedicated therapist with more experience and training would be a better fit. If that’s the case, I’ll let U know.

Format

Here’s how it works:

U send in an application. I review every application personally. If it’s a fit, I’ll reach out to schedule our first call.

Before we speak, I’ll ask U to read and memorize some basic information. Not too much, and there’s no test! U won’t be graded. But the more familiar with this material U are conceptually going in, the more smoothly our time will go, and the more value U will get out of it.

We’ll do three calls over approximately 3 months, as mutually available.

  • Call 1: We’ll practice an emotional processing exercise on a recent situation from your life. U’ll practice identifying what U are feeling in your emotional body and naming them.
  • Call 2: We’ll address any problems or challenges U are experiencing using your growing emotional skills. We’ll do the same emotional processing exercise again, to a deeper level. And then we’ll discuss what bringing this emotional intelligence into your daily life could look like.
  • Call 3: We’ll practice all the same skills again, debug any problems and debrief everything that U have learned.

Between calls, U will practice what we’ve learned, and journal about any situations you’re experiencing that are challenging, bring up feelings. U will also practice naming your emotions and interpersonal feelings to other people. I’ll be available to support U asynchronously as U run into challenges.

Outcome

After this offering, U will be able to feel your emotional body, name your emotions and feelings, and express them to yourself and others. U will make meaningful progress towards being able to cry and release emotions.

Cost

$1,000 for the full program (3 calls + asynchronous support between sessions)

Because I can only take on a limited number of clients at a time, I may increase prices as demand goes up.

If U are interested in developing these skills, but money is tight, U could benefit from reading these materials, all of which I’ve made available for free:

There’s also the wonderful Bio-Emotive self-paced course, which covers much of the same material at a more accessible price.

Call to Action

If this program sounds like it would be of benefit to U, then fill out the application form here:

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The art in this post was created by SĂ­lvia Bastos, and is licensed under a CC BY 2.0 license. You can support her work on Patreon.Â