Richard Schwartz, the creator of Internal Family Systems (IFS), has written a book about applying the IFS model and techniques to romantic relationships: You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting For.
The questions Conscious Loving asks and addresses spoke to me deeply: “Why are close relationships, which are supposed to be about love, often so painful? What are we doing that causes the pain? What are we overlooking? How can we have more love and less pain?”
Erich Fromm’s The Art of Loving is easily my most gifted book.
In this series, I’ll share and summarize my favorite books on relationships, and what I took away from them.
I’ve looked to the Ender’s Game series for clarity about difficult topics, like character, psychology, ethics, leadership, and strategy. In this post I’ll tease out certain lessons I’ve found in Ender’s Game about the issues closest to my heart.